Parent less Parents!

Parenting is one of the biggest challenges one could ever face. The responsibility that comes with it is huge and if taken for granted can result in a frenzy. Though everyone has an opinion on the subject but it has one very basic principle i.e. learn from experience, yours or others.

The challenge is not only looking after your produce but also to shape a personality with the available resources, few or many. As I said, experience is the key here. Parenting can become easier provided that you have your parents to advocate on this job but what if not? Parentless parents often find it hard to deal with their children as they dont have any one to take a counsel from. Hence, the challenge becomes more demanding.

One of the remedies to this is to secure the legacy. This includes withholding of all the precious memoirs of your parents that can be a source of affiliation for you and your children. For instance, photographs, ancestral homes, achievements and acknowledgesments that depict high or esteemed of your parents etc.

To begin with, photographs play a very integral role in bringing the memories back. Snapshots hold a whole plot behind them and the flash back can be an advocacy in your parenthood. Moments that bring happiness such as your birthday when your mother used to be organized and passionate makes you follow the foot steps on your little ones' or, the time when you were crying and your father made you at ease by diverting the attention and giving a warm hug. So, securing this treasure will bring back all those times which you are living up again but as a parent.

Similarly taking your children to a visit to their ancestral home emanates the sense of belonging and originination in them. They would love to see the things that their grand parents used to have and  would definitely have inherited some of their traits too. Making your children meet up with your parents' freinds and neighbours would make them acquainted to their grand parents. You must have been telling them stories of your parents and  a visit like this will be a help in better understanding.(This has been really  helpful to me having lost my father at an early age and getting known to his personality by often meeting the people who knew him well.)

Moreover, achievements  of your parents should also be shared and imparted with your children. Memoirs and sovenirs can have a tell tale of their own and children will love to have them as a memory. This will encourage them to build on their innate potentials and look upto  thier grand parents as source of inspiration.

Parents are the pillars and one must feel unsteady in their absence but following few of these steps can be helpful.